Stay at Home Mom

Becoming a mom has been a dream come true for me. After falling for and marrying an amazing guy, I knew that we would become parents soon. After months of trying, we finally figured out what kept us from getting pregnant. I was diagnosed with endometriosis, and after surgery, we got pregnant immediately. It is a year later, and I am grateful to announce that we have a beautiful baby girl.

Why am I telling you all of this? Well, after two months postpartum, I was planning to go back to work. I was only away from my little princess for one day, and I was in shambles over us being apart. I cried so much that I knew I was not ready to work, and I do not know if I will go back to a full-time position.

Am I insane? Maybe I am. I am choosing to be at home when so many men and women fought for equality in the workplace. I feel a bit guilty about it, but I know that I had to listen to my heart on this one. There was even guilt among people in my inner circle. I wish I could make people understand how long and hard I had prayed for a little one of my own to love. I have cared for so many children before now, and it is time for me to care for J.R.

It is because of her that I have decided to choose home over career. No matter how hard life gets, I know that this is where I belong. If you have had to make a hard decision like this, know that you are not alone. Many parents are making similar decisions so that they can be with their children. I want to applaud you for being strong enough to stand against what was not for your family and creating the environment that you all need.

I am new at this, and I have not seen it done by the women in my family. Most of them are career women, and they seem to know what they want out of a career. What I know is that I want to be a mom. Now that I am, I want to give J.R. my best.

I desire to encourage all moms, no matter their decision, to do what is right for them and their families. You will not have everyone’s support; honestly, they will not all approve. Some people may even try to tear you down for the choices you make. I am writing to tell you that no one knows you better than you and your Creator.

The Bible says in Jeremiah 1:1, “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you, before you were born, I set you apart…” You were not meant to do what other people are doing, because you were meant to be different. Do not let others discourage you from being your uniquely wonderful self. Stop comparing yourself to others. You were meant to stand out. There will never be another you in this world, so allow yourself to shine #mommystar. Shine so that your children, family, friends, and neighbors know it is okay for them to shine too.

Sincerely Your Sister,

JJJ.